Are you constantly trying to improve? Or do you feel comfortable enough to stay where you are with your life and career? Pursuing growth is a brave decision and needs to be trained like a habit. Grow starts where your comfort zone ends.
There are two types of mindset, the ‘growth’ mindset and the ‘fixed’ mindset. Different mindsets might be applied to different areas of your life like your career, your relationship, or your finances… Let’s start with the fixed mindset. Having a fixed mindset means that you have adopted certain beliefs and truths in your life. It might be a case of learning from your family or the environment you’ve grown up in. It’s not your fault that you have a fixed mindset for certain things but it is you, the only person who can do something about it. Those beliefs are likely limiting or stopping you from becoming the best version of yourself.
Think of all the things you believe about yourself and realise that by believing them, you are only stalling yourself. For example, thinking that you are not a study type, that you don’t have the talent to run, that you are just not good at cooking.
On the other hand, we have a growth mindset. Having a growth mindset can open opportunities you never thought even existed. Believing in the journey of learning and becoming better every day is certainly the only way to look back at the end of your life and close your eyes in peace rather than with regret.
HOW TO BUILD THE RIGHT MINDSET
The most crucial part of setting up the right mindset is at a very young age. We love to praise our kids so we keep telling them how awesome they are, all the time. What we don’t realise though is that by doing that, we are building limiting beliefs within them. They think they are amazing at everything or specific tasks or skills, but then later on in life if they don’t get something right the first time, disappointment and depression will occur.
The way to do it is to praise their effort for trying. That way, trying will become second nature to them. They will understand that not everything can be mastered straight away, and so will come to enjoy the process rather than the result. Teaching them not to give up when things don’t go the way they wanted is one of the best gifts we can give to our kids or to anyone.
There is a great book called ‘Mindset’ from Carol Dweck where she goes into a lot more detail.
THE CHALLENGE OF PURSUING A GROWTH MINDSET
When you decide to pursue growth, the challenge isn’t just identifying and breaking through the limiting beliefs you have. You also need to learn how to deal with the fact that people around you might not be on the same page. You will have to be double armoured to the voice in your head and to others.
Progress means fulfillment. The reward you get from working on improving every day will get you results you could have never even dreamt of.
One way to keep a track of the progress is a reflection. Looking back and reflecting on what went well and what you have accomplished helps to move forward with a focus. Read my six moth reflection post here.
Comment below with limiting beliefs that are stopping you from the life you’ve been dreaming about.
Cheers to growth!